So, I am a 21 year old male but when I was a kid about 8 maybe 9 l had this friend from church also male, who is a couple years younger than me. One day were sitting somewhere and he mentioned something about wanting to touch my butt, and he tried to grab it. And then I think I was playing with something and dropped it so I reached down to pick it up and he smacked me like four times rapidly. He seemed to find it amusing. I thought it was kind of weird for a bit but eventually I forgot about it and we remained cool friends. He hasn’t acted that way since and this was over a decade ago. I know his grandma said he used to have a problem with seizures as a kid. He still goes to the church but not as often because he works now. Like I said, I hadn’t even thought about it until like a month ago when I read an article about a celebrity who had been sexually abused as a kid. And it triggered me for some reason and has been kind of bothering me. I just wanted to know if this was an assault or just inappropriate childhood behavior.
I have been kinda dealing with OCD lately so my mind has been messing with me about it. Is it possible I’m making it bigger than what it is?
If you’re worried about it still, it wasn’t nothing. Might not have risen to the legal definitions of SA, but the law isn’t a good yardstick for that. Might be worth talking more about to see how you really feel about it.
With OCD it is best to acknowledge the thought and let it flow out unjudged, otherwise it takes power. What you described sounds pretty much like kid silliness. If it was an ongoing behaviour, then yeah maybe that kid liked touching peoples butts. Either way who knows right, and the “whys” don’t matter, just that you are OK now.
Thanks I appreciate it
If you’ve been diagnosed with ocd then you should talk about this situation with your dr.
I’m not your dr, but if it were me in your situation I would categorize the event you described as regular assault and not SA. Additionally since it never happened again it was probably just a kid trying to figure something out in their own head. Maybe they saw a show where something similar happened for example.
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Claiming you have ocd becsuse of a few peculiar personality traits vs actually having it is two very different things.
I recommend you talk to a person that can help you out. If you have ocd then there are ways to make everything easier.
I agree. Thanks
Is it not probably more concerning that whatever demons you’re fighting is making you, a 21yo adult, go as back as 2011 to find random things to get bummed about?