with very few, if any, exceptions, didn’t grow up being told they’re gay
Except just about every guy who has ever been bullied. While the bullies usually don’t actually believe that, it certainly explains why straight men get defensive about someone thinking that they’re gay. Plus it’s just inconvenient if you’re trying to find a girlfriend.
IMO, it’s a difference in severity, not in kind. It’s a fairly regular thing for bullying victims to kill themselves or get seriously injured or killed by their bullies. Go a couple of decades back and out homosexuals, especially men, were exactly where trans people are now. Remember how the Republicans handled AIDS, or how male homosexual acts were literally illegal in many western countries until like the 90s or early 00s?
Bottomline is, don’t say your “friend” is a different sexuality or gender than you know they are, just as a test.
Oppression olympics never gets anyone anywhere. The people who were bullying and persecuting gay men 20-30 years ago are often literally the same ones who are bullying and persecuting trans people right now.
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Except just about every guy who has ever been bullied. While the bullies usually don’t actually believe that, it certainly explains why straight men get defensive about someone thinking that they’re gay. Plus it’s just inconvenient if you’re trying to find a girlfriend.
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IMO, it’s a difference in severity, not in kind. It’s a fairly regular thing for bullying victims to kill themselves or get seriously injured or killed by their bullies. Go a couple of decades back and out homosexuals, especially men, were exactly where trans people are now. Remember how the Republicans handled AIDS, or how male homosexual acts were literally illegal in many western countries until like the 90s or early 00s?
Bottomline is, don’t say your “friend” is a different sexuality or gender than you know they are, just as a test.
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Oppression olympics never gets anyone anywhere. The people who were bullying and persecuting gay men 20-30 years ago are often literally the same ones who are bullying and persecuting trans people right now.
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