• TheDannysaur@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    I thought the same thing. People are obsessed with the word gaslighting.

    This seems more like textbook hypocrisy. Person doing thing talks about the harms of others doing that thing.

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      3 months ago

      People love to use it because it makes them the victim.

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        3 months ago

        … What?

        Is this some weird “victim mentality” thing?

        People love to use it because it got popular and grew to mean more than the original definition to the point where it just got generic to encompass a wide range of things. It’s the same as cringe.

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          3 months ago

          It didn’t grow. People misuse it. Dumb people

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            By this metric, one can argue that we currently “misuse” a lot of words in the English language, but the reality is language evolves. Think about how the definition of “nice” has evolved from meaning “ignorant or stupid” in the 1300s to it’s current meaning.

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              3 months ago

              So gaslighting should change to what? Telling someone they are doing something that they feel they aren’t?

              You’re nice.

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                I’ve noticed this a lot the last 5-10 years. Nobody uses words wrong anymore it’s all “language evolves” and “language is descriptive not prescriptive.”

                People are just using the word wrong.

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                  It’s just crappy education mixed with “don’t tell me what to do” mentality. A lot of it is probably social media, where a popular person starts using a word wrong and that quickly spreads and is often used assuming the listener knows about the inside joke.

                  I was talking with someone IRL who was a very big Twitter and TikTok user. They are also (diagnosed) autistic. It was difficult to follow them because most of what they would say sounded almost meme-like, very accusatory, and rude. I would ask them not to talk to me like that and it was dismissed a “obviously a joke” or “sarcasm” or “deadpan.”