From the “This is only news to neurotypicals” department

  • nixcamic@lemmy.world
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    “People with ADHD can only get shit done when they’re stressed and will often create stress just to motivate themselves” is in freaking Driven to Distraction, the first mainstream book about ADHD from like 30 years ago haha.

    • 𝕸𝖔𝖘𝖘@infosec.pub
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      I thought I read that somewhere, many years before this study “just” discovered it. Shoot, I’ve been using that knowledge as a coping mechanism for at least a decade lol

  • orca@orcas.enjoying.yachts
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    I basically have permanent anxiety because of this. My entire life, tasks have been driven by fear and anxiety. My emergency response is fucking amazing because of this. I broke my wrist last year and was in a zen mind state. Handled it like it was nothing and didn’t panic. It makes me wonder if software engineering was the wrong field for me and I should’ve instead been an ambulance driver.

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    that’s the only way I ever submitted anything in college lmao

    wait what do you mean I’m now suffering from permanent burnout and near adrenal exhaustion and inability to execute on any of my hobbies anymore? No that clearly just means I need more caffeine and to work harder because I’m lazy

  • I'm back on my BS 🤪@lemmy.autism.place
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    AuDHD here. I got put on Buspar for anxiety once. It worked amazingly well at getting rid of anxiety. Unfortunately, I learned that anxiety was the only way I accomplished anything meaningful. I would have to be anxious that I would disappoint someone or something would result in terrible outcomes if I didn’t do it. When the Buspar got rid of anxiety, I lost my drive to accomplish anything. I remember telling the doc, “I don’t feel like doing anything. I just sit there.” So, I was taken off of it.

    My personal psychological intervention for ADHD was military training instilling discipline and increasing anxiety to illicit the military discipline to avoid doom. In other words, I accomplished everything meaningful by pretending I was in war. Accomplishments weren’t accomplishments to celebrate. They were avoidance of harm to feel relieved by. A life full of fear rather than pleasure and pride.

    omg I can’t believe I just figured that out rn lol 😆

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      We are fighting a war. Try not doing the things that stress you out. Straight to living in a van down by a river.

      But man, what a carefree couple months it gets you. Like mana from the sky, a blissful oasis in a sea of hurt, never to return.

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    Yeah, it’s the pressure of needing tasks completed immediately and the obvious importance/need to remove the stress-causing thing.

    It’s a perfect recipe for hyperfocus and also why I can’t set my own deadlines–because I know it’s all wibbly wobbly when there isn’t a hard deadline from an external source. I’d be rich if I had a dollar for every time I wished someone would just tell me when something is needed instead of asking me to give an estimate.

    If the task feels like boring busy work or bullshit and no one told me otherwise, you’ve got fuckall chance it’s getting done.

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    Yeah I’m terrible at normal mundane activities, god forbid paper work or writing a report. But when there is a fire, I turn into Superman. It’s weird. It’s like the chaos fuels me.

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      Yup. I rode deadline panick all the way through to a degree and now it feels like adrenaline just doesn’t work right anymore.

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      I’m pretty sure my baseline cortisol levels could kill a small animal. And probably shortened my lifespan by a few years.

      My AuDHD is flavored by several varieties of anxiety and crippling depression, the former undiagnosed for most of my life and the latter two only being treated sporadically. I’ve had my episodes of shining in times of chaos (usually at work) but my brain’s go-to response is freeze.

      It’s not very effective.

    • rhombus@sh.itjust.works
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      That’s what drives me nuts about saying we “thrive” in stress. Equating being functional with doing well is so detrimental to our mental health, because we may be hitting deadlines but we are suffering miserably while doing so.

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    Someone had to carry out a study for that? I thought that’s common with ADHD.

    Stress just turns on a switch in the brain which would otherwise be off no matter how much a situation warranted it.

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      When i was 14 i had my first real big assignment in school. We had to write 14 pages about something. We had like 8 weeks or something. My teacher looked specifically at me and said: that’s not one of these things that you can start in seven weeks and think you get by.

      I knew what i had to do and i had time to do it. Anyway, i started the friday when i only had 3 more days left, didn’t find the book i was looking for so i did the whole thing on a sunday and got an A. It was there where i first wondered if something is wrong with me or if school is just bullshit.

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    I work in incident management. I feel comfortable when everything is on fire. Look around like it’s surreal that everyone is so panicked.

    • Lucidlethargy@sh.itjust.works
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      I wonder if that’s why we’re here? We’re the people that act first when the animals attack the village…

      Don’t be fooled, though. It adds up.

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        I’m the one who is awake by the fire when the sabretooth shows up at midnight. I’m the one going around telling everyone to get outside, the house is on fire. I’m the one who is suddenly at the bottom of the small cliff, still steaming and naked from the hot tub, doing first aid assessment on the partier who fell off. I’m the one who burns for 14 hours and gets the team to push that working build out minutes before going live.

        There’s dopamine in there. We’re starved for it daily so we can go hard in some way when it counts.

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        It makes sense, but it also makes sense to design society so that situations where it’s helpful happen as rarely as possible. If some people are predisposed to being a good firefighter, it doesn’t negate the fact that you don’t want buildings to catch fire in the first place, so you still want to teach children not to play with matches, teach adults not to keep lighter fuel near their heater, and ban companies from selling combustible cladding to insulate tower blocks. Prevention is better than cure. You just then have a load of people who aren’t great at being anything except a firefighter, ready for fires that never happen, and under the current system, forced either into jobs they’re bad at, or into chronic stress to get consistent productivity.

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    Its crazy too becauae I am almost never stressed until SUDDENLY I AM, GOD FUCK I AM SO STRESSED WHAT THE FUCK HAPPENED HOW DID I LET THIS GO UNNOTICED FUCK

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      This is what Prozac and Atarax are for, at least until I can somehow finagle an early retirement

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    This worked until I developed GAD. Now it’s hard to get motivated and hard to wind down, lol.

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      If you figure out the motivation thing, give me buzz. For winding down, I found that doing mindless sorting tasks is good for relaxing. For instance, I build LEGO things, my son plays with them and takes them apart eventually, and I sort them back out. One time, I went through my son’s old clothes and made a list of what was in each box. I felt so relaxed after the clothes logging! It was a nice little Saturday!

      We are wired differently. “Winding down” doesn’t look the same for us. It’s just hard to find the right task to let our brains relax.