Also, the first class tickets for the train were totally worth it.
That’s some Grade A dad’ing Squid! Happy for ya, proud of ya. Best of luck over there!
Thanks!
I just took a look at your post history to see the origin story to this, seems to me you ARE Lemmy?! Every other post I saw seems to be from you…
The UK just gained several precious people. Good for them!
Lemmy will be okay if you don’t keep posting as much as you’ve been. Do whatever you need to do to set your family up there.
I’m both glad you made it out and jealous I don’t have a similar history with another country to move to. You’re a great parent for everything you do for your daughter. Hope the last bit of the trip went smoothly and you find a job quickly.
Thanks!
You’ve joined a time-honored tradition of fleeing fascist governments. o7
Welcome to the UK. And if anyone asks, you ain’t seen me, right?
Seen who?
Someone once said that emigrating is trading one set of societal issues for another. If you’re happy with the trade, awesome.
Good luck in your new homeland.
Yes, and I am trading the societal issue of possibly having my daughter tortured for being queer for the one of that not happening.
That is a valid choice.
Hey, congrats for taking that big leap, even if it is to the UK (having lived in a couple of places in Europe including over a decade in the UK, my opinion of the UK is pretty low).
It takes a lot of guts to take yourself out of the environment you know (with all it’s implicit expectations of “this is how people behave”) and move into a different environment were people don’t value the same things, expect the same or behave the same.
Good luck!
Thankfully, due to my British father and grandmother, I know some of the basics. But I still have a lot to learn. Thankfully I’ve got us registered with an NHS clinic (waiting to hear back from them) and just got our new phone numbers.
Wow, you actually did it! I remember you laying out your plan here on Lemmy a few months ago. Kudos to you
Yeah, it’s a bit of a headache to figure out all those details if you have nobody to help you, though generally you can figure out a lot of those things by talking to coworkers - as a saying from my country goes “Those who have a mouth can get to Rome”
However the “expectations” I was talking about are more the nitty gritty details of interacting with others in everyday life one isn’t really aware are social conventions (because everybody follows the same version of it as you do in your country, so one naturally thinks that’s just the way people behave in general) until moving to a different country and finding out those things aren’t actually universal.
Things like saying “it’s interesting” when an English person asks you your opinion about something is actually being very critical (you can literally use it as an insult), you’re supposed to stand on the right side of escalators if you’re not walking (especially in a Tube station) or that, unless indicated otherwise, you’re supposed to queue for things if there are other people waiting for it.
Figuring this kind of stuff out is actually quiet an interesting personal growth experience, IMHO.
Where do people not line up for something to wait for it?
Often it’s more like not respecting the sanctity of the line. Americans got the tradition of the queue from the Brits. It was a source of constant annoyance when I lived in Germany when people would cut the line and others just let them without objecting.
people would cut the line and others just let them without objecting.
I can’t even imagine that being the case in a place like Germany… Some places sure, but there!?
It was 30 years ago, at least. Can’t speak to today.
It’s pretty common in most countries for things like waiting for the bus to not queue and in some countries people won’t even queue when the bus arrives and they’re trying to go in, and instead just try and jostle their way in.
Good luck, I hope you and your child find the UK to be less shitty than America. :)
Having emigrated to France with my kids in 2017, I think you’re making a good decision.
Was this a similar move as with OP? Meaning you had preexisting ties to the country before moving?
Ah awesome, I was only thinking about you both the other evening and wondered how you were doing.
I hope everything is going well so far.
I’ll tell you when I’m less exhausted myself.
I didn’t know if England was the best choice, but right now I think Neptune is probably better than here.
It was my only choice. I have citizenship here. (Technically I am a “British passport holder” until I go to a citizenship ceremony and say God Save the King and I’m not a spy or something, but whatever.)
Better to pledge loyalty to a king who’s a figurehead than one with actual power like we have here.
Grats on finally making the move! I hope everything works out for you and that you found a beautiful place to live.
Welcome to the UK :)
Welcome! Hopefully once you’re settled you’ll be able to find a local pub that does a good sunday roast
The closest pub here is called, I kid you not, The Spread Eagle. I haven’t been yet but how can I not?
Holy shit please go and post your thoughts xD
Welcome to the UK! Not sure on your final destination, but I’m based in South West England. Please feel free to reach out if you need any help or guidance, especially if you’re heading down this way 🙂.
I’m based around south yorkshire if you need anything squid. Hope you like it here
Thanks! In Blackburn in a VRBO at the moment, but I have no idea where we’ll end up. Looking for work everywhere I can.
Ah you’re just up the road from me. Guessing you changed at Preston? Hopefully you find something soon!
We did indeed change at Preston. And then went everywhere in the station because the lady on the train gave us the wrong directions. After missing the Avanti West Coast train two times and going on the wrong train at Euston once.
