• KeenFlame@feddit.nu
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    1 day ago

    The more your relationships are about appearance, the less you can know about yourself and them since you are certain to not chase a partner to be a trophy among other effects

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      It’s not about being a “trophy”. I just want to be with someone that I’m physically attracted to, and who is physically attracted to me. I don’t think that’s unreasonable. Obviously we need to have compatible personalities/interests beyond that but it is a big factor.

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        14 hours ago

        You choose how big. Once you are mature or old, you realise how little it means

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          7 hours ago

          You don’t choose that. It’s different for everybody.

          That’s like saying people choose whether or not to be gay or bi versus being straight.

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          I’ve never been able to force myself to be romantically interested in some one I wasn’t attracted to. I’ve tried. I’m pretty sure I’ve been on the opposite side of that as well and it made for a shitty relationship.