• shneancy@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    so is a person with trust issues who really struggled supposed to just go and die alone?

    this is just victim blaming

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      6 months ago

      No, they’re supposed to put in the work to move past it. No one is responsible for your response to your emotions but you.

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      6 months ago

      They’re supposed to date someone who can take it, if they need to date. But dating someone who can’t handle it is abuse.

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        6 months ago

        “if they need to date” bruh

        then the person who “can’t take it” has the responsibility of communicating it. Simply existing and having issues next to someone else is not fucking abuse. Why are you using that word so lightly

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          6 months ago

          Because I’ve been abused by people who were like this. It escalated. I had PTSD so bad I couldn’t work a full time job.

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            6 months ago

            I’m sorry but you saying that you were abused by someone’s trust issues sounds like you expected full devotion and full trust out of your partner which does not convince me to believe you were the victim there.

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              6 months ago

              You clearly haven’t been in a relationship with someone who has PTSD and takes their anxiety out on you. It absolutely takes a toll on your mental health.

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                6 months ago

                the conversation is about trust issues, not ptsd or someone taking their anxiety on their partner