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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • We’re all gross, and we’re all ugly, and we all deserve love. You are included in that equation.

    I’m sorry for your loss.

    Sex is not the only part of a relationship, and being sexually attracted does not mean you should ever feel coerced into it.

    Sex is embarrassing, gross, and silly. With the right person that’s okay and worth doing, with the wrong person it’s not. Your feelings of embarrassment are common and you’re not broken or anything.

    For me relationships are about comfort and belonging more than physical satisfaction, maybe that’s the thing you’re looking for?

    They say there’s somebody for everyone, no matter if you’re pretty or ugly, someone will find you beautiful and love you, try not to let your doubts keep that kind of person away if that’s something you’re hoping for.

    On the other hand, relationships are just one flavor in the medley of flavors life has to offer, society may say you have no worth without an SO but that’s patently false.


  • Journalism is broken

    • Nobody can afford to have subscriptions to the thousands of possible sources for articles
    • Knowing which sources of media are reasonable to support is difficult when paywalls block the vast majority of content
    • Journalists deserve to be paid for their work
    • Massive news organizations hold far too much power
    • Advertising has always been a part of journalism, newspapers had ads, and that’s not great. News organizations are bound by self preservation to avoid criticizing those that pay them
    • Many articles have worth, only if promulgated, paywalls encourage people to only read the headline and accept it as truth

    So, I’d like to comment on the article itself, but will not pay for it. Nothing for it I guess?



  • Given that the biggest neurological basis for asd is a lack of pruning of synaptic connections compared to neurotypical development, reasonableness likely would not from a full societal shift to asd.

    Unfortunately the neural network of the worst among us wouldn’t be eliminated, just augmented, see the self proclaiming elon musk. Asd or not humans are still human, we all have our struggles and demons.











  • I’m atheist, but recognize that I am not all knowing and may be missing crucial information.

    I was raised to believe in the same christian beliefs you have, so I can offer a little insight.

    1. Interfaith relationships are challenging, your view about the fundamental nature of the universe is at odds with your partner’s
    2. religion is not based on fact, or math, it’s based on faith and feelings. You can’t convince someone to believe the way you do
    3. The christian religion has many different flavors, some say the unbelievers are saved through grace, some say you must be baptized and junk. Take heart that even in your own faith there’s a good chunk of people who believe your SO would not go to hell despite her lack of belief
    4. it is not your right or privilege to change their beliefs
    5. you may be wrong about her destination, I firmly believe that you are, you may be certain you’re correct but so are billions of others who believe something different than you

    Respect this person to make their own decisions, respect your god and choose to believe they will not make good people suffer.





  • Honestly a large part of what you’re describing is just human nature, and a big part of growth is recognizing that actions and identity are different.

    Just because you ate a hotdog, that doesn’t make you a person who only eats hotdogs. You are not defined as X, you are a complex and nuanced human.

    That said, if you recognize your flawed behavior and don’t adjust, you’re in for a bad time as life goes on. The loneliest people I know are those who embraced narcissism until the day they died.