Yeah, their shrimp and mayonnaise onigiri with an Asahi for under $5 total was just the perfect jet lag food

I think it’s better to frame it as the submissive role attracts a certain type of insecure person, some of whom are well into the personality disorder or abusive range, and whose abusive tendencies can be less easy to see.

There are dominant equivalents, but it’s very much the narcissism to the submissive borderline. Those dominants refuse to take no for an answer and punish it not through fear of hurting them or of being seen as the villain, but instead with fear of being a bad sub or fear of disappointing them. Both make you fear their anger.

And the other big difference is the community has long been talking about abusive dominants, whereas we’re still in the process of starting the conversation about abusive submissives. Partly due to preconceived bias, but also partly due to severity of damage. Abusive subs are more likely to only really traumatize you, while abusive doms can enter into grievous bodily harm. It’s also that dominant style abuse is more visible at events. We’re starting to see consent conversions and warnings about abusive partners specifically talk about this though.

I stand by 7/11 onigiri being actually pretty good. I’ve had plenty of worse fast food

Repeatedly treating my stated boundaries as an opening point for negotiations. Emotional manipulation. Lies. Frequent demands of my time and energy claiming it was an emergency and harm would come to her without assistance. Making every hard no an opportunity to beat herself up and every soft no a drawn out negotiation.

The fact is she’s very good at all that and I wasn’t the last person in the community to be victimized by her (I was one of the first, and I was very open about it afterwards).

I accept that I didn’t maintain my boundaries nearly as well as I should have, it’s something I’ve always struggled with, and I have a hard time saying no to a person requesting help from me. I still have occasional nightmares of running into her. I still feel ridiculous being victimized like that.

They’re both also staple starches in central American cuisine

Yeah, choking is the sort of thing people who do hook suspension may decide is outside their risk profile, but plenty of people will try it as their first kink act thinking it’s not that dangerous

I mostly blame the Hapsburgs myself

It’s not that. Hawaiian buns are a product meant to taste sweet. We’re talking store brand wheat bread type breads.

And on that note, sweetened peanut butter is dessert food, not a sandwich filling. Unsweetened is the best.

I’m an American and yeah, bread shouldn’t be this sweet. Aldi has a good whole wheat that isnt sweet though

Oof yeah from what I’ve seen pros typically get really jaded, and that tends to either screw with their desire to dom or get them weird about it. Which like makes perfect sense from everything I’ve seen and heard.

And yesh finding a compatible partner can be very difficult. I lucked out and on my first date with my wife told her that part of what I wanted from life was lifestyle power exchange and she’d never even realized that was what she wanted.

But yeah in addition to compatibility issues, I’ve noticed over the years that a lot of subs are just awful at selling themselves to dommes.

Ok yeah if someone wanted to do that to me I might give it a shot. But yeah I wouldn’t be happy if she did it to me without a heads up

We absolutely can accuse them of not having invested. Sure they spent money, but investment involves research and waiting for it to pay off

Fuck I hate the long s

Oh the BBC has no trust on controversial topics? I fucking wonder why

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Of course it released them lol

You start with American ingenuity. Or Scottish, those fuckers can fry anything

Yeah as a trans woman I’ve never seen someone identify as bi and thought “I shouldn’t hit on her” because of that label. And if I also found men attractive I’d almost certainly use that label.

Probably because the identities we circle back to often have merit even if we don’t like it (the number of years I kept finding stupid arguments that I wasn’t trans…)

It sounds like you dislike this about yourself. You could check to see if there’s a medical issue causing extremely low libido. But fair warning, it may just result in you being horny and not finding anyone attractive.

I’ve seen it, but the problem is twofold: Firstly subtle is better, adding a cup size using fat from elsewhere in the body or trimming a little bit of bone can look good because it’s not a radical change that looks artificially constructed. Secondly, it takes a long time to heal right, it looks worse while healing, and it can be easy to not notice the change over that time.

I’ve seen friends get facial feminization surgery and yeah, they look like a train wreck for a month but a year after surgery sometimes they look better. That said, you also usually need a surgeon willing to tell you no when you ask for too much.