Not talking about being with one partner at a time. Talking about the idea of finding "the one" and being with them your whole life.
50% divorce rate. 97% of people (in the US) don't wait till marriage, so most of us have multiple sexual partners prior to the one we stick with. Many have children with more than one partner.
How can anyone look at the world and think, yeah, there's one that's meant for everyone and just one?
Also hope I don't come across disrespectful. If you do believe in monogamy, I am interested in hearing from you. I'm just buzzed and thinking about my own love life and being curt
Edit: Speaking to the idea that it's the "natural order" or default. Not that it can't work in individual circumstances, especially when we've been programmed for decades
It’s not a religion so no need to believe in it. Some relationships just don’t work out and it’s good that it’s possible to get out. If divorces were outlawed, then the divorce rate would be 0% but it wouldn’t be a good thing, you know. And I doubt monogamy is the culprit here, I strongly suspect that the issue are communication problems, maybe untreated mental health issues such as unresolved trauma, no positive relationship models. Polyamory wouldn’t cure that just because it’s poly. The problems are deeply rooted into “the society”. Upbringing, the education system, the accessibility of healthcare and many more, it’s a very complex thing with a whole mountain of variables. The number of people involved in a relationship in a given time matters very little.