I’m a short person. I’m also sedentary and classified as overweight but not obese. As such, my TDEE is around 1600-1700 calories. So, to lose weight at the pace I’d like, I have to restrict myself to 1200 calories a day.
My partner is taller, fatter and has more muscle mass than me. He’s talked about wanting to lose weight to get healthier, but when it comes down to it he won’t do anything. Which is baffling to me, because his TDEE is high enough that he could eat waaay more than me and still lose weight.
Ugh. It’s frustrating.
You said it yourself, he is taller, fatter and has more muscle mass. Of course he has to eat more than you because he also burns more calories than you.
If you would eat till you are full, and he would eat the same amount, he would still need more. And not because he’s a fatty fatty fatso but because more mass needs more calories.
You’re reminding me of a few larger women in my life who have said, when I talk about how quickly I’ve lost weight with intermittent fasting, something along the lines of “how easy men have it with weight loss.”
It isn’t just the numbers on the calorie calculator that scale with size and biological sex. It’s also the hunger, because those are the basic needs. You need to be hungry to lose weight, and I’ll lose weight while eating more food than my wife because my very existence burns more calories, but I’m fighting the same hunger.
I get annoyed at people who won’t try not because they’d have it easy, but because they would rather complain about their lives than do something about it.
It is a little annoying to see the volume of food they can eat but it’s always going to be annoying. I’m a little taller than average so my maintenance is closer to 2100 at the moment but I still look at my brother needing 2700 and get jealous. At the end of the day you’d both be hungry eating under your maintenance.
