Hello all, my good friend has been trying to get out of her disastrous living situation for several years now and the prospects are nonexistent. She’s trans and without family in her life. In her words:

My roommate situation is bad. Desperately bad. My name has become a curse, one of them panics about literally the fact that I exist, and the other credibly talks about the options for physically disposing of me on a regular basis, out in the desert where half the strangers I meet bring up how ‘the gays are our misfortune’ unprompted. Doubt I can stick around here long, and I’m too crippled+isolated to handle being homeless again. I know what it takes having done it a few times in my teens and twenties, and I know that, due to recent injuries, I don’t have it right now. No point in suffering through it to buy myself a couple weeks of precarious slow death, when there’s nothing waiting on the other side, and this situation has a possibly literal deadline well before the end of the year.

I can afford to rent a place, but I need a co-signer on the rental agreement, or somebody in the city (los angeles-ish) with a spare room. See; I have real money, but it isn’t banked, and real money isn’t real. Only hypothetical money is real. So I need a US resident with apparent income (before expenses?) over ~4.5k and social credit score over ~720 who can be a guarantor to convince a landlording company to let me pay their generous fee to not social murder me. Or someone with a room to rent near los angeles, but I have no idea how decompressing from this is gonna look and I’m terrified of fucking up a roommate situation before I have some time to ditch a few generally maladaptive coping mechanisms I’ve picked up here.

if I get a kitchen, I’ll be using it to feed people and organize at least a couple dozen hours a week; really all I want to do after dealing with this shit. I have some really cool ideas, but I can’t really do any of them here.

small warning: it varies from company to company, but the application process is crazy invasive, not every company is the same, but they seem to be getting worse. the worst I’ve found asked for access to bank accounts and a background check, but several months of statements submitted to the property landlord company’s background check subcontractor seems to be the norm.

I’d co-sign for her myself if I were a US resident, but I’m not. I don’t think she’ll survive this year without a new place to live. If you think you might be in a position to help, send me a dm.

  • GaveUp [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    3 months ago

    I know a lot of queer people who have been in just as precarious housing situations find accomodations through Lex posts/groups and queer Facebook groups in their local city