I have always struggled with self-esteem, especially when it comes to RSD. To cope, I’ve found that repeating certain positive affirmations like “I can do anything,” “I’m awesome,” etc. helps me feel more confident in myself. It’s not about being arrogant, but more like a mental trick to push through my insecurities and feel better in the moment.

The thing is, some people around me are starting to accuse me of being a narcissist because of it. I’ll admit, part of me does enjoy the attention that comes with these affirmations, and for a while, I just leaned into it. But now it feels like it’s spiraling a bit out of control. I’m wondering if I’ve crossed some line between self-empowerment and self-centeredness.

I don’t want to seem arrogant or like I’m trying to manipulate anyone, but I really don’t know how else to keep my confidence up. Has anyone else experienced this? How do you manage the fine line between boosting your self-esteem and coming off as narcissistic, especially when dealing with ADHD or autism?

  • bizarroland@fedia.io
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    11 days ago

    Narcissisism isn’t a bad thing as long as it is known and controlled for.

    You feel good because you say good things about yourself? Rock on.

    Others feel bad because you say good things about yourself? What is their problem?

    That is not a normal reaction.

    Friends should lift up friends at least in equal amounts to how much they are lifted by said friend.

    As long as you are being a good friend to your friends it should not negatively affect them when you say good things about yourself. Of course, it would not hurt if you tempered that by saying good things about them as well.

    Lift up all the homies

    • agrantgreen@sh.itjust.works
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      7 days ago

      I agree but I wouldn’t even say this is narcissism. Narcissism doesn’t mean you do good things for yourself or take care of yourself and so on. That’s just having a healthy self esteem.