I believe that bachelorhood is genuinely the best choice for some people, but most of them don’t realize it, and/or get pushed into marriage by societal expectations. Congratulations on figuring out what’s best for you, and following that path!
I think there’s a particular brand of person I’ve seen a few times in real life and in media who gives off strong incel energy despite regularly having sex, and I think many of these people are the same as you describe. I think the toxicity that gives them the incel vibes are a product of “I have been conditioned to chase after sex and to measure my worth in how easily I can acquire sex, and now that I have achieved that, I feel hollow because it doesn’t give me fulfillment”
I spoke to a guy friend about this and he said that his own experience of losing his virginity in his mid 20s gave him a sense of discomfort that he later recognised as a sort of gender dysphoria (as a cis man), because suddenly he was “winning” at being a man (according to how society tends to frame it), but he was less happy than before.
Regardless of what is the best path for you, making major life choices because “it is expected” or “it is the default thing to do” is not a good choice.
I believe that bachelorhood is genuinely the best choice for some people, but most of them don’t realize it, and/or get pushed into marriage by societal expectations. Congratulations on figuring out what’s best for you, and following that path!
I think there’s a particular brand of person I’ve seen a few times in real life and in media who gives off strong incel energy despite regularly having sex, and I think many of these people are the same as you describe. I think the toxicity that gives them the incel vibes are a product of “I have been conditioned to chase after sex and to measure my worth in how easily I can acquire sex, and now that I have achieved that, I feel hollow because it doesn’t give me fulfillment”
I spoke to a guy friend about this and he said that his own experience of losing his virginity in his mid 20s gave him a sense of discomfort that he later recognised as a sort of gender dysphoria (as a cis man), because suddenly he was “winning” at being a man (according to how society tends to frame it), but he was less happy than before.
Regardless of what is the best path for you, making major life choices because “it is expected” or “it is the default thing to do” is not a good choice.