I’ve had several conversations/arguments recently with my brother making clear my system of values and my hatred for the wealthy. He is nearly diametrically opposed on all accounts and often makes light of their actions. He goes so far as to say that poor people and people in need of social services should have to figure things out for themselves. He often defends Elon Musk and champions him for being self made.
He is getting married in a foreign country soon and I have been able to put aside our differences and have been planning on going
…up until yesterday that is. I asked him of his thoughts on Musk’s seig heil maneuver and he sent a right wing meme of democratic leaders caught mid wave, saying that “they did it first”. He continued to be avoidant and didn’t respond to me calling it a strawman.
In this moment it feels necessary to cancel my plans to send a message that this is not ok. Am I the (or an) asshole for not going to his wedding because of this?
To me this seems like a no-brainer. Don’t go.
Why would you go to an assholes wedding? I’m currently planning a wedding and if I invited someone that didn’t like me, I’d honestly rather they not come.
So. I’m not sure why you think you’d be considered an asshole. You’re two different people that aren’t friends and don’t see eye to eye. Why would you go to his wedding?
Maybe they are friends but have different political and social values. That happens.
If supporting fascists in taking over the USA is a deal-breaker to you, thats totally understandable though. But remember it is the easy way out, convincing them would be the right thing but much harder.
Because it is their brother’s wedding and there’s a chance he won’t be a fascist in the future but he’ll always be family?
Family means nothing. Spend your time with people you love and who love you. Don’t spend time around nazi-apologists.
That’sa sad perspective to have on family.
Spoken like someone who’s family loves them.
I think blind allegiance to family is a much more sad perspective
That’s really sad. Family should be a source of love and support even when you are in a bad place. Im sorry if that hasn’t been the case for you.
I’m not trying to start a fight here.
Your comments come off as someone who is naive to how bad many families are to the point of having a disneyfied view of family.
I’m really glad your personal experience has been great, but please know that is not as common as you think.