My 14-year-old sister Lena has made a friend who is constantly picking on Lena for the slightest things, calling her weird, screaming at her in social situations and in athletics, saying she is useless, etc. [my sister has mobility issues and asthma as well]
Fortunately, Lena told me that she and another friend of hers stopped hanging out with the friend but the teachers still want her paired up with this girl? (No one else will hang out with Lena’s friend because her friend group is preppy and very cliquey)
The friend is also doing the classic “You can’t be friends with those girls and leave me, they don’t like you/understand you like I do. I’m the only one who will accept you.”
Yeah, I don’t really know how to help as I don’t go to her school and I’m obviously several years older than her
She’s abusive, and may cause some lasting emotional damage.
So it’s not just my sensitive nature to think she’s more abusive than anything?
If this is accurate, “…who is constantly picking on Lena for the slightest things, calling her weird, screaming at her in social situations and in athletics, saying she is useless…” then no.
This is a good opportunity to explain to your fam that this is not okay, and what she should do to distance herself from this manipulative and abusive person.
It starts with her self esteem.
No you’ve already pointed out several glaring red flags, including trying to isolate your daughter, lying to her, etc. Her teacher should see that too but I guarantee her teacher doesn’t get paid enough to care.
She keeps saying everyone hates Lena because she acts weird too (vocal stims + tics) and that she will truly like her and that everyone else will hurt her.
I’d be really angry at her. Don’t care how old she is.