the Super Bowl halftime show was pretty good, they should consider continuing the strategy of getting people who aren’t totally washed
the Super Bowl halftime show was pretty good, they should consider continuing the strategy of getting people who aren’t totally washed
I just feel emotionally fragile. My friend who told me we were through changed his mind and apologized. I understand what he’s going through because I’ve been there too, but I can’t shake the feeling everyone’s a step away from dropping me. He can apologize for shutting me down and explain how he actually meant it kindly, but I still feel like the most annoying person on the planet.
I have a D&D game with a new group coming up, as well as a queer matchmaking event. The thought of both are making me kind of sick. I’ve had multiple friendships end in a slow drama spiral. I read so much about conflict resolution and de-escalation and still, I say my piece and the other person starts ranting about how much they hate themselves and how they shouldn’t be my friend.
I just keep missing how my friend group used to be. After the vaccine became available in the US, we all took a big trip together and it was one of the nicest memories of my life. We talked about doing more trips in the future. Now I don’t know where I stand with any of them.
I’ll probably suck it up but I’m tempted to cancel both events. I really want companionship but I can only imagine myself ruining people’s self esteem.
Have you heard of 7 cups? It’s a lovely community for folks working on their mental health. I have two therapists and started medication now and it’s getting my mental state in line, finally. But before all of that I found 7 cups helpful. (https://www.7cups.com/)
I used to be a 7 cups listener. Their privacy policy is an atrocity. Be safe out there. Nothing on that platform is private.
Oh yea - defo didn’t use my real identity. It’s an open group style participation. It was helpful for what it was.
Once I understood their policy, it gave me a distaste for the service. I’m glad it was helpful to you!
Thanks, I really appreciate the suggestion. Probably not necessary though as I’m actually on my third therapist. I’ve been trying to figure out what’s wrong with me for a long time. 😓
Aww. Maybe it’s not “what’s wrong with you” and more what do you need to make coping in this world more manageable? That’s what it was for me, in a nutshell. Always happy to chat so you can message me anytime.
Thanks ❤️ I just don’t want to cope without close relationships, I guess, so I really want to know why I keep making people spiral.
Sometimes I think it’s not me, it’s them… But it’s become so many of them.
I doubt that you are making people spiral. From what I’ve experienced and observed in my own life, I think people who are dealing with shit tend to attract other people who are dealing with similar shit. And sometimes, depending on how said people are dealing with their shit, everyone’s shit can start colliding and turn into a shit storm. It’s not one person’s fault, and all any individual can do is work on their own shit and go from there.
That’s reassuring, thanks. I feel insane sometimes from the effect I have on people when I think I’ve said something normal. My therapist didn’t ask for any examples and just convinced me I’m rude af because I’m autistic and was homeschooled, but cutting out the “rude” behaviors never helped. In fact, people started melting down when they learned I’d done that.
“You stopped doing that thing I had a meltdown over? Why are you still hung up on what a dick I was?” When they’d never told me they were a dick or that they were wrong. I thought if I apologized for something, I’m supposed to stop doing it.
I just feel like I’m not appropriate to be around people sometimes because I do the right thing and everyone still has some kind of nervous breakdown.
That seems odd to me that your therapist never asked for examples. If you ever feel like it, I’m sure people here would be happy to give you input if you’re wondering how people might generally react to something in particular.
I’ve found this to be the case over the years. If I’m in active alcoholism, that’s who I find, usw. “Broken” people seek out “broken” people, because what the normies are doing makes no sense at all.
Gentle hugs