Isn’t the entire point of the profile and matching system to filter incompatible people out? Why can I match with 50 people and not a single one wants to get a coffee or something after exchanging a few pleasantries? Everybody hates these things and yet they refuse to do anything IRL to get off them. Is there some Manchurian candidate activation codeword that I’m missing? I feel like everyone treats this shit solely as an ego booster and actually gets pissed off that anyone tries to interact with them. How do you meet people in hellworld if you don’t drink?
Me after dozens of dead-end back-and-forths that lead to nowhere despite having shared interests and presumably being attracted to each other since we matched: 
Hmm, maybe it’s the extreme commodification of relationships and atomization under capitalism that prevents you from getting anywhere with this garbage 
Nope, must be because @SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net didn’t say my favorite “The Office” quote and send me a playlist with 50 of the greatest songs I’ve never heard that made me instantly fall in love with them. I have no idea what other people expect from these things but I’m not doing labor for someone that I don’t even know is real. Thanks for reading my rant, any advice is appreciated.
Tbh I think they’re only good for femme peeps if you’re A) mostly just looking for casual stuff (not to say serious relationships are impossible on the apps, just difficult to find) and B) are willing to sign a deal with the devil where you will absolutely be sexually harassed by a deluge of fucking weirdos. There’s a reason for the gender skew on the apps and I suspect being bombarded by creeps and unsafe people is a huge reason women/femme presenting ppl aren’t on these awful things anymore. Though idk I’m male presenting so I’m relying on speculation here. But I really do think it’s bad for both sides, just in different ways (this is assuming hetero relationships ofc, things change a lot I’d imagine if you’re looking for gay relationships on the apps).
EDIT: realize “deal with the devil” language could sound victim blame-y, to clarify it is 100 percent only the fault of the creepy dudes harassing women and not of the women who are using one of the only available options left to meet people reliably.