• Bonehead@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    if they never have had to do chores as kids, how can you expect them to start at 40?

    Because they are 40 goddamn years old, that’s how. Sure, you can blame your parents for your upbringing. But at a certain point, you need to start taking responsibility for that shit. Your parents can’t fix you at 40, only you can do that. And if you can’t figure that out, that’s on you. Not your parents.

    There comes a time you grow the fuck up and take responsibility for your own life.

    • grabyourmotherskeys@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      Exactly, at 40 you can google how to do any chore. I was doing chores at a very early age and enjoyed the sense of contributing to the household and the independence.

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      1 year ago

      I agree that you should take responsibility for your own life sometimes after you become an adult latest in like the 20s.

      In this case the mother have done all the chores for 40 years, like what was expected of a woman 100-200 years ago, and I’m sure part of it is she still see them as her boys, it just took her 20 years to reach her limit.