I can’t put many details right now because I am at work. But I want to know if anyone else struggles with this or has advice?

I will update with details later.

  • James BaxterOPEnglish
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    7 days ago

    I found that therapists tend to focus on helping resolve her issues with me and disregard my issues with her, even if they are related. I haven’t felt heard in our therapy sessions. One therapist we tried even started our first session with a comment on how they generally agree with the wife.

    I think it is because my wife complains about common issues that women face. The problem is that her issues are overblown or untrue. She still gets sympathy and focus.

    My therapist has seen the cold side I see; however, no one else has. My sister-in-law is beginning to notice things, but she still suggests that I change, rather than asking her to.

    • infinitevalenceMEnglish
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      7 days ago

      The problem is that her issues are overblown or untrue

      I often thought the same thing, until I really took the time to understand the core of the resentment. Turns out it was not overblown or untrue, just that I did not really have the perspective.

      Thats not to say that she is not part of the problem in my case, but the things that I was denying were not her fault, and I was totally blind to them in part because of my ND but also because of the blanket patriarchy and privilege i was raised in.