I’m intersex. Non standard genitals. Times and times again I’m being made to choose to be a man or a woman. My pleas to get minimal hormones just to be healthy are ignored. I’m in medical debt due to dealing with debilitating complications from doctors forcing my body to be either female or male. Letting my body be it’s normal self minus what was causing actual issues was never an option. I’m deeply convinced if nonbinary people were acknowledged this wouldn’t be the case. I’m given zero control. Asking to be put on low dose is ignored. My only option is refusing all hormones and hoping my body will manage. I don’t have natural dysphoria, I get dysphoria from the surgical and hormonal changes forced upon me. I’m tired. Fuck nbphobia.
I think one of the goals of intersex visibility and acceptance is realizing you don’t need to be changed. You aren’t broken or defective, even if people often view this as a problem that needs curing. So it’s not just sympathy or support, but as you say, allowing you agency to live your own life and determine your own identity.
Intersex is part of the natural variation of human biology; unfortunately the first reaction of society is to try changing whatever is different, as we’ve seen with failed attempts of conversion therapy for gay and trans people. Forced conformity has a long and destructive history :/
Not all intersex conditions are the same. Some do require medical intervention for you to be healthy, not in pain or else. It should be stressed doctors ought not to force anything besides what is necessary.