my recent ex would just yell at me from 3 rooms away. I’d be forced to yell back “what??” and then half the time she wouldn’t say anything. So I’d get up and walk over there and ask “what??”. “oh, nothing, I wanted you to see this thing on TV”. I’d ask that she could please walk over and talk to me directly so I didn’t have to yell or get up and it would never happen.
“Come here if you want something!” and then remain silent until they come. I love my gf but I’m done having a conversation yelling across the whole apartment.
After asking for months or years for her to stop making me raise my voice and yell back, I started responding in a shitty tone like “WHAT?? WTF DO YOU WANT” which is a negative thing to have to do. But that had no effect either, other than perhaps a negative one on me psychologically.
One of my co-workers does this from her office. I pretend I have really bad hearing and don’t ever respond, but she persists.
Thankfully, my husband and I are pretty good about actually approaching each other. If I ever heard my husband call me from another room, I’d know it’s an emergency.
If I acted like I couldn’t hear, she’d just repeat it louder and louder.
I get that sometimes, but I always win the war of attrition
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