I’m not a woman but will speak on what little I know from life experience.
From a woman’s perspective, an offer to share intimacy is not necessarily validating in the way a similar offer may be received by a man.
For some, perhaps many, women there is the looming question of whether an offer of intimacy is simply a man looking to make them the object of their sexual gratification. Many women are not interested in that.
As men, we’re not used to getting offers. So much so that when we get one it makes our day, week, month etc. For many women, the challenge is not getting offers, but there is a looming question of whether the offer genuine. What is the intention of the person showing interest? It’s not that men aren’t also concerned with these questions. It’s just that, for a variety of reasons, the stakes are lower for men. So they spend less time thinking about them and more on just being excited someone noticed them.
The society that hounds everyone about everything.
And frankly, it isn’t surprising. In a world of diversity of opinions, you will be criticised whether you do by someone. We all might share 99% of the opinions of everyone else, but that 1% is not always the same 1%.
I’m not a woman but will speak on what little I know from life experience.
From a woman’s perspective, an offer to share intimacy is not necessarily validating in the way a similar offer may be received by a man.
For some, perhaps many, women there is the looming question of whether an offer of intimacy is simply a man looking to make them the object of their sexual gratification. Many women are not interested in that.
As men, we’re not used to getting offers. So much so that when we get one it makes our day, week, month etc. For many women, the challenge is not getting offers, but there is a looming question of whether the offer genuine. What is the intention of the person showing interest? It’s not that men aren’t also concerned with these questions. It’s just that, for a variety of reasons, the stakes are lower for men. So they spend less time thinking about them and more on just being excited someone noticed them.
Also: dont overlook that media hounds women about everything.
Totally true but I would say:
The society that hounds everyone about everything.
And frankly, it isn’t surprising. In a world of diversity of opinions, you will be criticised whether you do by someone. We all might share 99% of the opinions of everyone else, but that 1% is not always the same 1%.