It’s a general thing most of the time. We have a limited time here, doing what we do. I can handle that…

What I’m currently dealing with is not my own mortality, but that of my wifes. She has congestive heart failure and schizophrenia (among plenty of other issues). She doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with her as her body slowly fills with excess water that’s literally currently accumulating in her lungs because it’s filled every other point up to that height. She has a constant cough to clear her airway and can barely stand as her feet are so full of fluids that it hurts to do anything other than lay down. She’s been to the hospital for this before, was given all the warnings, life changes, and general rules to literally live by. She decided not to adopt any of those changes. I’ve done all I can reasonably do as I sit here listening to her pain and suffering. There is nothing I can change on her deathmarch other than some vague level of comfort. How is anyone meant to deal with this? I’ve attempted to compartmentalize it as much as I can to section off those feelings, compared it to a train wreck is slow motion. I can see all the moving parts, but realistically I can’t effect change that would do any lasting good. I feel lost.

Worst update imaginable. She’s had not one, but two strokes. The first one knocked out her right side mobility, the second might have impacted her ability to speak and seems to have given her some level of aphasia. I won’t know her new baseline until she’s able to breathe on her own, but the bare minimum at this stage is looking like nearly full time care needed for the rest of her life. The doctors found a third heart clot that’s threatening to make things even worse.