I always hated this - why are we all winners. Tell me exactly why. Was it because we practiced a lot and did the best we could? Was it because it was a close race?
You know how it’s said that children are narcissists or psychopaths or whatever? I actually remember the moment that stopped being the case for me.
It must have been kindergarten, and we had a raffle style drawing in class. I knew I would win of course, I remember thinking that.
Then some other kid won. Blew my mind. It was at that moment that it really hit me that other people have fully independent lives and minds, just like mine, and the universe didn’t exist for my benefit. (Of course before that, if you had asked me I’m sure I would have said those things, but didn’t actually feel it intuitively until right then).
I feel like experiencing a loss (which wasn’t my own fault) was a very significant part of my mental development at that age, and I think it’s important for people to get that while growing up.
We can’t in fact all be winners. To quote a great philosopher:
“It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life.”
Children’s development was super interesting to learn about in psych - self actualization and its development is truly the closest thing we have to religious/divine touch to me.
The universe shits out all kinds of “life” and “functionality” but to truly see yourself removed from physical confines and to understand that and crystallize that immaterial essence into the physical realm is truly awesome to me. Have a great day 💜
I always hated this - why are we all winners. Tell me exactly why. Was it because we practiced a lot and did the best we could? Was it because it was a close race?
Don’t just entitle the kids, teach them
You know how it’s said that children are narcissists or psychopaths or whatever? I actually remember the moment that stopped being the case for me.
It must have been kindergarten, and we had a raffle style drawing in class. I knew I would win of course, I remember thinking that.
Then some other kid won. Blew my mind. It was at that moment that it really hit me that other people have fully independent lives and minds, just like mine, and the universe didn’t exist for my benefit. (Of course before that, if you had asked me I’m sure I would have said those things, but didn’t actually feel it intuitively until right then).
I feel like experiencing a loss (which wasn’t my own fault) was a very significant part of my mental development at that age, and I think it’s important for people to get that while growing up.
We can’t in fact all be winners. To quote a great philosopher:
“It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life.”
Beautifully worded man. Thank you.
Children’s development was super interesting to learn about in psych - self actualization and its development is truly the closest thing we have to religious/divine touch to me.
The universe shits out all kinds of “life” and “functionality” but to truly see yourself removed from physical confines and to understand that and crystallize that immaterial essence into the physical realm is truly awesome to me. Have a great day 💜