today was supposed to be my first day of therapy and the therapist didn’t show up. I’m pissed off. I wasted 2 hours for nothing.

I’ve sent her a polite message, asking if she’s sick and hoping she is well, but in reality I wanted to yell at her. However, if I yell at her, chances are she won’t treat me.

Before you suggest to find another therapist, finding a shrink where I live is very difficult and the other ones I contacted have either ignored me or are overbooked. I need therapy and it bothers me to be so dependent on one person.

For those of you who have experienced something similar, how doesn’t it bother you?

      • Lemmy_2019@lemmy.one
        91·
        10 months ago

        Emotionally mature adults shouldn’t have to shout at anyone in daily life. It’s not repressed rage if you have an even temperament.

        I do know several volatile people who consider it normal to ‘blow off steam’ by having a raging argument every now and then. It may be helpful to them but it’s childish and unfair to those around them.

          • Gamma@beehaw.orgEnglish
            3·
            10 months ago

            The context of the comment I asked the question to was a situation flip where they stated they’d be more comfortable if the therapist raised their voice in response to them being late…

            So, yes. I wouldn’t expect a therapist to have anger issues like that.

          • belated_frog_pants@beehaw.org
            3·
            10 months ago

            You dont yell at your therapist either. Anger management seems like a good first target if you cant stop yourself from yelling at people.

            No therapist should put up with being yelled at.

        • intensely_human@lemm.ee
          12·
          10 months ago

          I didn’t say “shout”. I said “raised their voice”.

          Raising one’s voice means speaking with more force than casual.

          • Lemmy_2019@lemmy.one
            7·
            10 months ago

            You can split hairs, but I certainly don’t ‘feel safer’ around people who raise their voice to me. It’s intemperate, threatening and often bullying. But I can see we won’t agree.