• lolcatnip@reddthat.com
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    7 months ago

    As a white dude, I would be horribly embarrassed to do something like that. I hope the guy in the story learned a lesson from it.

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      7 months ago

      If this ever happens, all it needs is an acknowledgement of the mistake and an apology. It’s very easy to fix!

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        7 months ago

        You can apologize, sure, but in that situation I would absolutely judge you strongly for it regardless. Forever or until you proved you grew out of that kind of bullshit.

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          7 months ago

          Frankly, I would not want to associate with people who bully people after a sincere apology.

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            7 months ago

            I never said I’d bully anyone but I would absolutely remember behavior like that. You don’t get to act like a bigot and then just say you’re sorry. This isn’t christianity where everyone has to be forgiven no matter how shitty they are. This is real life where your words and actions have consequences.

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              7 months ago

              I suppose it depends on the apology, doesn’t it? The person may not read social ques well.

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                7 months ago

                Nah, we’ll just disagree. The apology is you doing what you think you need to do to make it right or get out of a situation. What you said or did at first would be what you believed at the time. Immediately apologizing shows no growth at all.

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          7 months ago

          Sorry for being born as the two most privileged groups.

          At least I’m a gay, fatherless and poor. Its all ok, put your pitch fork down

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        7 months ago

        What are you saying? If I go out and do some horrific thing you aren’t personally responsible and should feel shame for being a white male?

        That’s completely unacceptable.

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          7 months ago

          I almost killed myself because I felt responsible for Hitler’s actions when I learned about them at school 50 years later

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            7 months ago

            That’s fucking disgraceful BTW you should be shamed of yourself for what Hitler did.

            All my family got bombed by the Germans or directly fought against them but I feel personally responsible for the crimes white men I’m not related to in anyway did to my ancestors.