On Blahaj and 196 - Hexbear
hexbear.net
Due to multiple factors, such as unaddressed ableist removals [https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/3df0e4c7-bb64-4c00-bbdb-5c753018895c.jpeg?format=webp] from the /c/196 moderators, defense of chasers [https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/97e9abd7-e8be-499e-8db7-7a7d5d1e2762.webp], no-quarter rules regarding our users [https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/8dc37487-d36b-4a55-9519-c3f8bb4fcae6.png], leakage of good-faith DMs from our admin team [https://hexbear.net/post/361826], and a general lack of initiative to punish these behaviors, we have come to the conclusion that the 196 community on lemmy.blahaj.zone has made the fediverse an unsafe space for our queer, disabled, neurodivergent, non-western, and other marginalized comrades on this forum, and we will be defederating from lemmy.blahaj.zone until we can be confident that this will not continue to be an issue. We have attempted to make good-faith parley with both the instance admin and the comm moderators, but we've reached a point which we feel that until these behaviors are addressed by instance administration, we can no longer continue to federate in good-faith while our users are being actively invalidated by a small-but-vocal portion of the forum. Once we are confident that these behaviors have ceased and are unlikely to continue, we are more-than-happy to refederate in the name of queer solidarity. Thanks for bearing with us :07:
        • Moss@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          1 year ago

          What chaser things have I defended?? I’m trans I don’t see how I could be a chaser and I don’t even know what I could do to earn the title. It seems like this post was never brought to our attention, because we check every report we receive and remove the ones that should be removed. What we don’t check, however, is every post as we do not have the mod numbers for that. We can only see what you guys bring to our attention through reports.

            • Moss@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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              1 year ago

              Oh yeah I remember this whole fiasco. The argument was literally just attraction to body types/features versus attraction to genders. This person was expressing that they’re only attracted to archetypaly “female” body features but are open to dating any one of any gender identity. The whole fight is basically just people thinking that they’re fetishizing trans men when they’re just expressing that well they’re fine with dating someone with a masculine identity, they don’t think it would work if the person wasn’t comfortable in a feminine body. I don’t really want to get into this again, but there’s nothing wrong with that in it of itself.

                • Moss@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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                  1 year ago

                  Seriously! I’m transfem, have been for years, 2 years on hormones, but I have no problem with my voice. Let it be masculine! Who the fuck cares. It doesn’t matter! Lot of trans people feel similar ways about different things

    • alycat@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
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      1 year ago

      People are so caught up with hating hexbear users that the whole 196 mod drama is probably going to be overlooked. I’m waiting to see the statement from our instance mods before deciding if this place is really for me

      • Ada@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMEnglish
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        1 year ago

        What sort of statement? Except for the ableist comments that occurred last night when I was sleeping, everything else in that post had been actively addressed long before hexbear was on the scene.

        The issues around ableism occurred when I was in bed, and I addressed them first thing this morning, removing the content in question and sending comms to the person in question making our standards clear.

  • WotNTarnation@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I could not be more relieved.

    On the one hand, it sucks that there is a rift between communities who seem to have genuine care for LGBTQ issues. However, through the past day, being exposed to Hexbear’s community and content has made me extremely concerned.

    Hexbear’s server content is full of great big red flags. Even a brief skim through some top posts and comments showed a lot of content I found alarming. There are posts denying genocide, calls to violence, blatant Russian propaganda, apologists galore for authoritarianism, and the constant assurance that anyone not agreeing with these ideas was obviously a Fascist. And this was all wrapped in what I can only describe as a weird layer of smug superiority - that they are the only ones who “get it”. I don’t have a high opinion of any community that seems to think having the a word like “tankie” applied to them is problematic while accepting the previously mentioned content as okay. To make matters worse, a lot of Hexbear user’s I’ve seen in other communities posting, it is often antagonistic if not just straight-up trolling. I just don’t see the value in any of this.

    I just wish we had become defederated sooner and not been exposed to a community that seems to be so rife with arrogant, extremist trolls that are hell-bent on stirring up drama.

  • KyuubiNoKitsune@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 year ago

    Damn, I’m not one for drama but Holy shit their comments on that thread are fucked up, they seem like a really toxic and unhealthy bunch of people.

    We’re generally better off without extremists who’s only defense to anything they don’t like is attacking others and badmouthing them.

    It really shows their general character and maturity levels.

    Also, it seems like there are a lot of other instances asking mods for defederation due to toxicity.

  • Xtallll@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    1 year ago

    They have a very different view of what constitutes an unsafe space, for the last day or so every time I saw a username with pronouns my whole body would tighten up anticipating some randomly aggressive attack post. I hate that they made me feel that way about something that should be good. I will not miss them.