• AquaTofana@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    I go through phases of this with my husband. We’ve been married for 13 years, and he is legit my best friend, and I find him to be just unbelievably hot af. I’ll go weeks where I’m just like “goddamn, this is mine?”

    And then I also go through less intense periods. He’s still my partner through life and I’d get his back through anything and everything, but it’s less “omg you’re so hot” googly eyes and more like “this is the life we’ve built together and I’m so glad I did it with you”.

    But then a few weeks later I’m in crush mode.

    Obligatory of course we have our periods where we annoy the fuck out of each other, but it’s usually short-lived and we communicate and work through it. I think that’s just a realistic fact of marriage.

    He has made me such a better person than I was when I met him though. I think about that constantly.

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      4 months ago

      I’m 16 years in and this describes me and my wife. I really struggle being around people who complain about their spouse. I just don’t relate, lol. Yeah she annoy me some times but I would take being a little annoyed than being alone. I also love to hear about people who love their spouses. My best friend only ever says positive things about his wife and it makes it enjoyable comparing spouses.

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      4 months ago

      I’ve been married 9 years, together for 16, and this really sums it up for me. Just this morning the way they looked at me in bed when we woke up and I was smitten.

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        Aren’t those moments the fucking best? When it’s such a “simple thing” to wake up next to someone and just feel that calm security or even the “fuck yeah you’re so goddamned attractive and you chose me too!”