• StopJoiningWars
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      4 months ago

      But that’s you essentially letting them know they should never confide in you… Doesn’t seem very friendly.

      • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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        4 months ago

        Well, it’s not said to friends. Truth is that it usually ends up in a real conversation rather than the empty exchange that’s typical when someone asks “how are you?” as a habit.

        It started as just a self deprecating joke, but it turns out that a little honesty about how we tend to only ask that when we want a short and positive answer makes people break out of that way of thinking. Truth is, most people that ask that kind of question don’t want an honest answer. It’s just a social nicety.