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Cake day: March 10th, 2025

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  • Yupp. I am part of a local gaming community, and that is how I know trans people. But everywhere else in my life, especially work in a office building, zero signs of anyone be trans. Not going to lie, it is a very hard mental shift to not say the wrong pronouns when I jump social circles. Always feel like a dick.

    Hell, I know for a fact that many people in my office wouldn’t even have the concept of a trans person if it wasn’t for social media.



  • I’ve just described to you a person that really wanted to learn something, and did it. Put in hours of mental and physical effort. And your response is that nobody wants to learn, and that people only learn what they want to learn? Which is self-evident and vacuous.

    No need to be rude man. You also described the same person as unwilling to learn something. And I didn’t say that person wanted to learn or not, I generalized and said people don’t want to learn.

    I believe we are both trying to say the same thing with different emphasis.

    You are emphasizing that people do like to learn, but there are external forces that encourage/convince them not to.

    I am emphasizing that people don’t like to learn, unless they want to overcome the external forces. I just don’t buy the excuse of external factors stopping people from learning, that’s part of the learning process.

    Your example talks about a person building a pc. Yes it takes time, energy, money, and learning. But it also has A TON of resources to help with that on the internet, definitely makes it easier. It is now a famously recommended project for anybody, even kids. It was also something that is ‘new’ to them, I assume.

    Typing this out made me realize a distinction I failed to bring up. People do like to learn, but people HATE to UN-learn ideas. The person in your example wanted to learn something new, but did not want to unlearn the iphone walled garden.




  • I joined the discord, so I get a notification whenever it is time to predict a bracket. Whenever that happens, I do my prediction right away. I don’t usually watch the tourney live. But I do go check to see how my predictions went.

    Makes me put my money (fake internet points) where my mouth is. So I like it because of that.

    It is really easy to use, and free. No real money involved.




  • Talent is hard to define. In my opinion talent = unobserved practice/study.

    This picture gets the concept across pretty well. But it can also happen with kids that “happen” to be good at something. Like sports. Was that kid a natural at baseball, or did he just watch a lot of baseball games and played backyard baseball a shit ton so he just knew the rules/strats before any of the other kids?

    Some people learn faster than others yes, but learning in itself is a skill.

    Maybe this isn’t true, but it is definitely 100% more effective than assuming talent is outside of your control or an obstacle that can not be cleared.





  • I would find out the ‘true’ reason why you feel this anxiety.

    You say its because of min-maxing, but why do you want to do this? Do you have a lot of activities that you do on the weekend, do you feel rushed, do you feel a lack of control, etc.?

    We all have this anxiety in life, some longer than others. For me, I felt like I had little control of my life, so I focused on that and now I feel fine of the weekends. Of course I want them longer, but I manage.

    Also, try deliberately ‘living in the moment’ more actively. Go outside and take a 15 min walk. What do you notice in the walk? How is the weather? Did you neighbor finally clean up that trash on the side of his door? Is the park busy? etc. During your walk act like a detective and soak in all the activities and information around you.

    Might help you ‘feel more grounded’.




  • Well… to me this seems awfully close to “stop hitting yourself problem”.

    Why are you looking comments everywhere? Do you really need that information to make a decision? Is it so bad to play a bad game now and then? I don’t see a problem, because this problem is easily avoidable by not going to social media for opinions.

    Or am I missing the point?