It is a constant battle blocking anime communities that post nsfw and just generally (in my opinion) depraved content, even here on Lemmy. I can’t go 5 seconds without seeing extremely sexualised content of extremely proportioned anime girls. And as if that weren’t bad enough a lot of them appear to blur the line of underrage content which is just disgusting. I really wish this wasn’t so prevalent, or better yet, nonexistent. Not only does it feel degrading and dehumanising but also it can’t be good for the mental health or sexual maturity of men either. I don’t mind if men want to share content of women they find attractive so much but the hypersexualisation, extreme physical proportions, and predatory nature of a lot of the kind of content they do post is disturbing.

Obviously a large contributor is that our communities get drowned out or lost to the void because the ratio of people using these social media sites are producing extreme biases towards men and the sexualisation of women. Which leads to echo chambers of negative sexualisation which then leads to a spiral of greater extremes.

The way I see it there’s still a negative social bias around male sexualisation and a whole lot of hetero fragility.

Men that prescribe to that treat content that sexualises a man as being negative (and worse still, gay [I don’t believe this personally I’m just talking in that mindset]). Because for them to even see that kind of content, even if it wasn’t meant for them is, is unnacceptable. It’s not simply a case of filtering the content. No it shouldn’t have even been put in front of them at all. But for us why isn’t filtering this content enough? we are made to accept their way and they are not expected to accept, or even tolerate, our way.

I’m bi but the hypersexuality of women online pushed me towards being hetero for a long time. It just drained any desire I had to be open about my own sexuality even internally. I know that online is only a part of my interaction with the world but it certainly contributed a lot against me being honest with myself about my sexuality. I can’t even begin to imagine what effect it’s having on straight men.

That sounds like fun

Understandable but it’s a shame that it’s not going to continue

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Honestly I’d rock an m1a1 in a dress I could have a Kevlar underskirt to match. Let me ride to war atop my Abrams chariot dressed like a queen.

Edit: only after posting did I realise we might be talking about the toys and not dress up.

I think that’s bread not cookies. It looks like they’re sandwiches cut into shape.

Understood. I appreciate you taking the time to answer these questions. You guys are doing an amazing job. <3

Maybe a bot could even do the part of the moderators and DM a member when they first comment or post. Allowing the user to respond to the bot to confirm if they fit the community and if not then remove the comment/post. A big ask I know but it may be an option if automation is on the table.

Sorry, I wasn’t exactly clear. I’m mostly just curious if you have further plans alongside the move to blahaj to address the issue you raised in this post.

I saw the post in the old community that talked extensively about the issue of outside influence and open hostility to members within the community which are the concerns I’m referring to.

Regarding Lemmy growing, what would be the response to the issue getting worse? Are there any plans for if that happens?

I have absolutely no idea what piefed is, even though the blahaj community has posted a lot about it recently. I’m just glad I can still access this community from the same app.

This is a really positive change. Moving to blahaj will hopefully make a significant impact on the concerns raised recently in this community. I’m glad that you guys have been proactive about protecting this community and have also been vocal about concerns that this community has raised.

Ada is amazing I’d like to also thank her for facilitating this move and also generally for being such a positive influence in so many communities.

I do have a few questions.

In light of the concerns raised, do you have anything else planned to overcome these challenges?

While I see the removal of downvotes as generally a good thing, are there any other means by which the community can self moderate besides reporting posts or comments that go against the overall mission of this community?

Are you, or would you, consider(ing) changing the community from blacklist to whitelist? Like blahaj is overall with their sign up applications. I’m not advocating for this I’m just curious if this is something that’s been considered.

Finally, if Lemmy grows significantly how do you plan to handle the impact that this will have on the community? If we are already having issues with external influences I only see that becoming worse if Lemmy were to see an increase in membership.

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I don’t know if it’s possible but some communities on Reddit had an account age limit to prevent spam, harassment, and also to ensure active moderation had a long-term effect. Is this something we could implement here?

I’ve been waiting for a story like this to happen in the UK for a while now. When I saw this I was actually surprised to see it was in the US. It’s only a matter of time, if it hasn’t already happened.

I will do. Thanks for the encouragement!

Well, it’s taking me a really long time. But the other day I began connecting all the plot points together and figured out a bunch of issues I was having. I added in a new character and that helped put a few pieces into place. So, it’s going slowly but I’m making progress.

Well, that’s a pretty horrifying thought.

Oh, I guess I wasn’t clear! I’m writing a novel.

Though I am also reading Metro 2033 by Dmitry Glukhovsky as I type this. It’s a difficult read as the author tends to ramble but I like the setting.

What is it?

It’s no longer wednesday but I picked my novel back up this week. I had a long break from it because I couldn’t figure out some details but I’m back now and working hard on it.

Not a real answer, sorry. I never found tutorials helpful. I just bought a bunch of clearance items and experimented. A lot of tutorials talk as if you already know what you’re doing so I found them nothing more than frustrating. Also, a lot of the stuff they use is so expensive!

I don’t know if there are tutorials that use cheap items and are actually for beginners (there almost certainly is) but I ended up learning from trial and error. Just make sure if you do what I did you buy some decent stuff to clean it all off with.

Personal assistant for the elderly. It should have been a rewarding job but it wasn’t. The pay was awful, I spent more time travelling between homes than helping anyone, and the clients weren’t the elderly people but the family who often just wanted a free cleaning service (it was a charity).

It was sad to see the elderly rot in their homes. The only excitement being my weekly visits that usually lasted only an hour. They rarely had anything else going on in their week and just had the TV playing in the background.

The families usually didn’t bother with them. If they even had a family. And a lot of the people should have been in full time care but obviously didn’t qualify for whatever reason.

I spent a lot of time wading through filth and piled up trash which hampered their mobility. A lot of my time was clearing it for them to be able to move uninhibited.

My final client I visited in the hospital just before they died. I’d spent a lot of time around them and it was difficult watching them die. I technically wasn’t supposed to visit them but I figured it was the right thing to do. And when they died I sought another job. It was too emotionally taxing and wasn’t paying a livable wage so I just couldn’t continue with it. Ended up handed in my notice before I had something else lined up.

I can only pray that when I reach that age I won’t end up in the same position.

Very true. While my partner does do chores, it is seen that way by some of my family. He is “helping” me. No, he’s doing his part of the chores that we both agreed to how it would be divided up. But no it’s seen as polite of him to “help” me.

He is good for it but I feel that the fact that I have to say that is evidence of the problem. I don’t think the same would be said of me because it’s expected.