• @octopus_ink@lemmy.ml
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    5 days ago

    And I’m saying, even if they are polite, they are polite because I comply. If I don’t really want to be in handcuffs right then - doesn’t matter. If I’ve got an important appointment or was about to leave to pick up my child from school before police arrived to “make sure I’m not a threat” - doesn’t matter.

    Your options at that point, even as someone who has done nothing wrong are comply, or expect violence. THAT is inherently traumatic.

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      I’m not sure whether that being traumatic is a good thing or a bad thing, but if something like that is the extent to which someone could get trauma, I can only suspect they have lived quite the good life I suppose.

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        5 days ago

        Wow what a dodge. It doesn’t matter the extent of the trauma or whether it’s the worst trauma they have had. You are minding your own business, have done nothing wrong, then the cops show up with a random accusation and “need” to put you in cuffs while they determine if you are a threat. Comply or violence. It’s not right.

        • Quack Doc
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          -105 days ago

          Of course it isn’t right. When did this become right or wrong? It’s about traumatic or not. There are lots of things in life you have to deal with that aren’t right. They’re very wrong oftentimes, but you deal with that. Being traumatized over something like that is just insane.

          I would get being upset with it maybe for a couple days. But having a long lasting mental injury because you got handcuffed is… Impressively weak.

          • @Count042@lemmy.ml
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            95 days ago

            Given your posts, I’m thinking you are a cop. This post certainly shows the absolute utter lack of imagination and empathy that cops have.

            You should have become a fire fighter if you wanted people to admire your self sacrifice.

            • Quack Doc
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              I am absolutely not a cop. I am a computer technician. Always have been, always will be. Pretty dumb assumption to make.

              I don’t have a lack of imagination nor a lack of empathy. I’m sorry, but the vast majority of people will not have a long lasting mental injury because they have been respectfully handcuffed. Now if they haven’t been respectfully treated, then yes, I could see that, but as I have implied multiple times and explicitly stated a few times now, if a cop properly tells you why you are being detained and restrained, does so without being violent etc. the chances of that being traumatic IE. “causing severe and lasting emotional shock and pain” or “psychologically or emotionally stressful in a way that can lead to serious mental and emotional problems” is not going to happen unless you have some pre-existing mental conditions regarding how someone handles stressors.