Here’s a low stakes question to start the community.

My father adopted me when he married my mother forty years ago. Unfortunately, she died only seven years later. Together they had two of their own. He’s not an overly affectionate person, but in my adulthood he’s been incredibly supportive.

Recently, he took a week off of work (a BFD for him) and flew halfway across the US to take care of me and my animals after a serious surgery. I’m trying to write a thank you note, but everything I write seems clinical or soppy. I’ve even tried chat GPT, but they’re as awful and stilted as I am.

So here’s the thing I want advice on… How do I thank him for continously choosing to be my dad for the last ~40 years?

  • Drunemeton
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    31 year ago

    Consider this: Most guys will live off of an impromptu compliment for a nice shirt they’re wearing…for years!

    So drop what you’re doing and text him to call you when he has a few minutes, reassuring him that everything is okay, you just wanna chat…

    THEN TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL!!!

    Just be yourself and speak from the heart. You will make his day/week/month/year.

    • WndyLadyOP
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      31 year ago

      I appreciate your sentiments but whenever I move off from how my car operates or the weather, he does the equivalent of the Midwest lap slap ope. My only chance to get something heartfelt across is via a written note. I’m looking for help on writing that.

      • Drunemeton
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        41 year ago

        Ah, okay then.

        My advice is still the same: write from the heart and be yourself. But do it in three lines:

        1. What he made Dad mean to you.
        2. Why he’s the best at being Dad.
        3. How you feel being his daughter.

        The write them in a nice card and send it.