• PugJesus@lemmy.world
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      21 hours ago

      They’re capable of feeling shame, just not for what you or I feel shame for.

      The trick is to find out what hurts them.

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        You’ve got to make them an outcast to their in group.

        So stupid shit like pointing out their hands are nicely manicured (if they are a man) that’s why they wear lifts and shoes too large for their feet.

        Or for women you call them a man. That’s why they do it to every woman they hate.

        Just observe them. They lay their cards right on the table.

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          20 hours ago

          The problem, of course, lies in striking the balance between speaking to them in their own terms, and reinforcing the values that many of their terms reflect.