Something I’ve always wondered is what kind of women were in the lives of incel men when they were young. Did they have a bad relationship with their mother? Did they lack sisters or other female family members? Or is their family situation irrelevant? Maybe some particular situation in their early years caused them to develop a complex around women?

  • HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I mean, my wife has a bunch of sisters. Her little brother is an incel. Both of our families are all kinds of fucked up tho it's kind of what growing up in a cult does to you

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      1 year ago

      The only person I know who qualifies for 'incel' has an amazing mom. I don't think this one is on females.

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        1 year ago

        Maybe it’s on the incels themselves, mostly. Not to be rude and not including those with severe mental disorders but life is hard and everyone is mostly the result of your own choices. If we constantly create excuses and look for someone else to blame for this particular group, I think we do them more harm than good.

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        1 year ago

        Assume nothing. You only know the mom's public facing image. People can be entirely different in private.

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          1 year ago

          I assume nothing, only what I can judge with my own eyes. She's not why he's an incel. But thanks for your concern.