• ashinadash [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    Autismdragon, where do you dig this shit up? I have the instinctual notion that it’d be a lot healthier for you to delete twitter meow-hug

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    Actually, everyone who swipes you on tinder is legally entitled to your entire medical history and those of your parents, didn’t you know?

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    Yes, as famously documented in the movie Clerks:

    Try not to suck any dick on the way to the parking lot.

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      That was actually just racism - the Anglos didn’t consider the non-Anglo Europeans to be “White” at the time, and changed their names on legal documents as part of the immigration process.

  • JohnBrownNote [comrade/them, des/pair]@hexbear.net
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    body count could be loosely associated with STI risk but if you’re hooking up same night, you’re implicitly waiving any potential right to a screening.

    i’d prefer to know what i’m working with ahead of time and i’m stopping at second base if i don’t like what’s in your pants but whatever standard of disclosure we have needs to first and foremost be about the safety of trans people.

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      i’m stopping at second base if i don’t like what’s in your pants

      Somehow I don’t think that many of us are waiting until things get hot and heavy to discuss our anatomy if it applies, since that frequently results in us getting fucking killed. Pretty sure this is more of a, ‘post op perfectly passing trans woman DIDNT TELL HIM!!!1!’ scenario, because it’s not like chuds & terfs acknowledge any other kind of real trans person.

      t4t

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          Reliable assumption: some kind of nonexistent boogeyman. This case is an exception however, because if you are a passing trans woman with a vag, there is obviously no requirement to tell anybody about your gender, and given the option many trans people would likely happily skip the “discussing my gender with a guy who might kill me” component of a hookup, which is a valid choice and where this comes from.

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    what counts as deception in this case is it deception if you fuck someone because you like a body part and it turns out to be implants? because considering that rape is fucking stupid

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      I’m an SA victim because I motorboated a cis woman’s tits and she didn’t tell me she got enlargement surgery frothingfash

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        See, the thing is, it IS morally questionable to keep information someone would care about secret during and before sex, but in both the examples of breast enlargement surgery and trans people, if the person who claims to care could not already tell, then any possible reason they could have to care indicates they are a reactionary. Sure, it would be morally questionable to hide the fact that you’re a different job (this is a bad example, I can’t think of a better one) or something so you can get into someone’s pants, because it implies a whole host of other lies and dishonesties going on, but there is no such issue with being trans or having breast implants. Any non-insane issue you could have with either would be entirely sourced in bigotry or just pure magical thinking.

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          Not even just people you care about, I’ve known people basically catfished before a tinder hookup, and then feeling pressured to still have sex after coming over because they didn’t wanna feel shallow or rude for walking out. Most people tend to use more favorable pics of themselves but a lot of guys out there have pics on their tinder profile from like 5 years ago when they look like a whole other person now