For instance, this one (link to a post to !memes@reddthat.com): https://reddthat.com/post/20260613
Pasting it in your search bar should give you this kind of results:
You can then click on it to access the post from your instance (in this example, lemmy.zip: https://lemmy.zip/post/16918691)
I generally agree with you.
However, I want to encourge you to consider softening up your replies to people who you don’t have a strong prior social connection with. I’ve started making an effort to do that and I’ve found that I’m having more rewarding conversations now.