• Flying Squid@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    Sure, there are self-hating people of all sorts of marginalized groups, but queer people are the only ones who get regularly talked about as if the people who oppress them are also queer.

    You don’t hear about Muslims being oppressed by secret Muslims.

    I cannot provide evidence for this, obviously, but it would seem to me that most bigots are bigots because they’re bigoted, not because they’re secretly the thing they’re bigoted against.

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      Religion isn’t something intrinsic about a person. If you hate the fact that you’re a Muslim, you can opt out.

      You cannot opt out being queer.

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        Okay then, you don’t hear about white bigots being secretly light-skinned black people. Pick whatever group you want. Queer people are the only one I can think of where it’s regularly claimed that the people bigoted against them are themselves the people they are bigoted against.

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          Yeah, nobody says that people opposed to disability rights are secretly suffering from an invisible disability.

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          Nah it’s a tale as old as time, we used to call it “the one who smelt it dealt it” but the principle is the same. The most fervent and vocal are often just trying to cover their own asses.

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            Can you name another example where bigotry against a traditionally marginalized minority is virtually always claimed to be coming from that minority?

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              I don’t care to sit here all day thinking about it and I’m not sure I agree with that characterization anyway, it seems like you’re just looking for a fight honestly.

              Do you understand what I’m saying though, are you familiar with the phrase? Another is “when you point the finger at someone you have three pointed back at you.” It’s a fairly common bit of folk wisdom.

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                I understand what you’re saying, I just don’t agree with your analogy where you equate suggesting all homophobes are secretly gay with accusing someone of farting.

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                  How about “when you point the finger at someone you have three pointed back at you” is that better?

                  If you’re in a room full of people, and you “lose” something, the person that helps look for it the most, the one who won’t give up and is very curious about where your item “went” is the thief.

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                    And yet you can’t think of one other marginalized group of people where every time a finger is pointed at them, people claim the person doing the pointing is part of that group.

                    Curious that you don’t find that problematic despite having no other examples.

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      Sure, there are self-hating people of all sorts of marginalized groups, but queer people are the only ones who get regularly talked about as if the people who oppress them are also queer.

      Not true, pedophiles often fall in this category and there is even more evidence of this to justify correlation

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          Not at all… and looking at the rest of your comments I don’t really know what you are fishing for but I don’t want to play your game

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            I’m not “fishing for” anything. Please don’t make ridiculous accusations about me. If that isn’t what you meant, what did you mean?