Notifications are a pain point:
giving people the ability to curate their notifications. Notifications are what’s driving them nuts. Not posts, not even the technology of Mastodon – it’s replies from assholes.
They need notifications grouped, they really do. Hell, I want that enough that I mostly look at replies from my phone, where I have an ap that groups them.
They need to be able to turn on something like Twitter’s old “quality replies” filter, which served as a junk filter, and a block against pointless below-ban-level negging.
And they need to be able to do it at scale, because if you have 100,000 followers, you can’t reasonably do it one at a time. It’s simply not possible.
Hey, your criticisms are welcome, and you’re entitled to your opinion on your Lemmy experience.
May I gently suggest to you a couple things?
First, it appears you are spending the largest amount of time on lemmy.world and lemmy.ml. Perhaps you could take advantage of Lemmy’s de-centralized nature, and join or participate in more communities that are not run by power hungry mods. slrpnk.net, lemm.ee, sopuli.xyz, mander.xyz etc… In my experience, lemmy.world is the server most Reddit-like, lemmy.ml is run by tankie idealists, whereas others are principled in other ways. Operators of other servers could be more in line with what you’d want out of a social media platform.
Second, with all due respect, some of your comments seem to have attitude. Consider this very comment I’m replying to, inviting people to flame you for presenting a negative review of Lemmy. Approaching conversations in an empathetic and compassionate manner may reduce the frequency in which you receive snarky or toxic replies.
You don’t have to take any of this advice, these are my suggestions for you.