• @funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works
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    586 months ago

    if you love what you do…

    for me the greater challenge is that so many kinksters are actually very tedious people who really want to tell you about their sex lives in lieu of an actual conversation

    • Seven
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      196 months ago

      A friend of a friend once talked me into going to a munch, where some scenes were going to be done. I’m interested in seeing new things and try to be open to having my horizons broadened, so I figured why not?

      I have to say, not only did I find it intensely boring, it was also about as much of a turn-off as I can imagine any in-person experience being.

        • deweydecibel
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          6 months ago

          Yeah, munch is basically kink recess. It’s a get together for the community that is almost explicitly non-sexual, just because it’s good and useful to have some time set aside for that.

          Now, to be completely honest, I’ve never seen the appeal. I’m not in the scene to talk about the scene. But I appreciate the benefits of them for people that want that social aspect.

        • Seven
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          26 months ago

          I’m aware of that now, but at the time didn’t know anything about it … it was being done in a community space where there was a bar and plenty of space for activities.

      • @yokonzo@lemmy.world
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        126 months ago

        Yeah, I can’t imagine doing a munch where there’s scenes involved, that just seems weird, but the ones I’ve been to just serve as like lunch with some like minded people who just happen to be talking about cock and ball torture in an iHop

        • Seven
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          26 months ago

          Yeah, that was just what the organisers called it I guess.

    • deweydecibel
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      Yeah, I’ve encountered this. Not everyone in a community is a tedious, kink-obsessed person, but they will be the ones there the most, and it feels like the only thing they actually care about sometimes.

      I’m not shaming them, enjoy what you enjoy, but I feel the same about them as I feel about people who make weed a cornerstone of their personality.

      • @pearsaltchocolatebar
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        26 months ago

        It’s true of anyone who makes an aspect of themselves their entire personality. They’re kind of insufferable.

      • Rob Bos
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        76 months ago

        People super into hobbies, I mean. Like someone who’s so into homebrew or model trains that they have abstruse knowledge and use jargon to the point of incomprehensibility.

  • @paddirn@lemmy.world
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    276 months ago

    At this point it’s not just for kinks, it’s for modern sexuality and dating in general.

  • @RBWells@lemmy.world
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    256 months ago

    Not kink exactly but I had a boss who abbreviated Due To/From (when one segment of the business owes another for something) as DTF and I never figured out if he was trolling us, or had just never seen it used.

    • Flax
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      116 months ago

      I don’t know what it means and I probably shouldn’t ask.

      • sadbehr
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        176 months ago

        Down to fuck. A crude way of saying “m’lady/m’man, would you like to copulate with me?”

      • @jdf038@mander.xyz
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        16 months ago

        “Down to… (have some super) fun (times)”

        Except the f doesn’t mean fun and the parenthesis are added by me. But if both parties consent I’m sure it would be a lot of fun.

  • @captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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    196 months ago

    It’s not that bad you just have to start with a 4 letter acronym that means 6 words and from there you pick up a bunch of new acronyms that already mean something else to you and will randomly be used for their normal meaning without warning just to test if you’re paying attention

  • @feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world
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    106 months ago

    I have a kink for white cotton camisoles and croptops, the thin material ones. I don’t know where it came from but it’s very strong. If I felt that way about feet I’d consider myself odd. Is there an acronym for this?

    • Sjmarf
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      46 months ago

      Remember r/WtWFotMJaJtRAtCaB

      (When the Water Flows over the Milk Jug at Just the Right Angle to Create a Bubble)